Thursday 28 August 2014

I've not past my sell by date....just gone off.....offline that is!!

Well this month has been hectic and busy with work and family. (and yes more wedding stuff ....I still have more events this weekend!!!)...

I have to say my work family and family are amazing and everyday I am able to be my strutting my diva stuff self (I get called a Tea Diva at work and quite rightly so as Tea is sooooo my thing!). But the main thing I am always 100% myself.....until I am around anyone I kinda take a liking to.....I turn into this shy....quiteness-silent being (which is soooo not me!!). And I hate it as I cannot control it......

I have to say I have not been active on websites for months on end this year, something inside me just felt it was good to stay offline in that area......I still think those who are just thinking about looking for someone should by all means still go through that channel, but for me personally I tried tested and a bit tired from it....for now lol.

So this wedding is a close family wedding and to be honest I'm always peacocking at weddings where I am heavily involved (Which is has been every wedding the past 6 years!) Yeah Weddings are a big part of my social life!!! But I think its an amazing way to network and meet people (not just guys!).....obviously there are family, then the bride or grooms in-law family, then the bride or grooms family from the other side, then the bride or grooms social friends and then cousins and uncle and aunties!!! So over the years I have collated more friends and acquiescences..mainly in the form of aunties, great aunts and grand mothers.....lol. I think this is a great investment, as you never know when they will pop out of nowhere and pull something out of the top hat like a rabbit! ;)

So about 2 years ago I met this Aunty (I know this was two years ago as my gorgeous friend just had her 2nd wedding anniversary and its her Aunty!) Anyway she is the one who got me introduced to Aunty Rishta/Aunty Cilla Black....I had not heard from her for about 2 weeks ...I did think I needed to call her but never got around to it due to the busy weekends and late nights I had with the wedding and juggling in work in there also.  Last night I had been informing a friend about Aunty Rishta Cilla Black, and right when I had my phone rang and it was her!! I was so happy as from our first conversation we hit it off and got on like a house on fire!

I picked up and said ''Salaams Aunty you are going to live a LONG life as I had just been speaking about you!"  She laughed and got right down to business....she said she had met a lovely lady who has a Son, he's 38 and works in IT in the City...I had sent two recent photo's of myself to Aunty Rishta Cilla Black and she said she had shown this guys mum but not him......and his mum liked me....She then said if I was ok with it, she would pass my number to him, but she would not show my photos to him, as he has an i-phone 5 and that me and him could swap photos bless her. She then said that once numbers had been swapped we could meet up for coffee as we don't work far from each other and take it from there.  She then added that she has not been to a wedding in two years and has soooo many glitzy outfits but no where to go in them.....she also added if at any of the wedding events I was going to if anyone knew of a single man who is about 60 years old to let her know...she said there is this gentleman who is interested but he's 49!!! She said I'm looking for someone who's 60......bless her heart.....and then it dawned on me.....I knew why I clicked with this lady.......SHE'S LIKE ME!!! Gets high on life and meeting new people (as well as trying to match make myself and others at the same time!!!)......Then I thought of something else....yes there is a part of me that has to be strong at weddings as you ALWAYS hear the same thing ''your turn next'', ''you must be fussy'', or that look.....that *one day it will be your turn look with a slight arm squeeze*.

But it made me think, this  Aunty Rishta Cilla Black.....her heart is so big.....not only is she looking for love, but helping others to find it too....And I have always tried to to the same.....love makes the world go around and your reason for living, everything happens for a reason and I think its up to us to see the signs, see how we deal with things and to learn about ourselves and find out what we know is best for us.....No matter what age........ :)






Sunday 10 August 2014

WOW!!!!!


TODAY I REACHED OVER 3000 HITS!!! THANK YOU FOR READING AND SUPPORTING ME! MEANS SO MUCH!!!!!

It's been a long time (long time), I shouldn't of left you (left you), Without a dope beat to step to (step to, step to, step to, step to). ;)

Hellooooooooooo / Salaaaaaaam!!

Its been a VERYYYYYYYYYY long time I know!!!

In June I spent some precious time back in the mother land and more important with my precious pearl me Nani / Grandmother.  She is amazing and I am always in awe of her, I love sitting and chatting to her and I am always grateful and envious of my cousins who live so close to her as alas she is half way across the planet from me. But as always it was fun, yet always so hard leaving her.....of coarse I heard the words of

''When will I hear the news of you getting married, you are the only one left''. Every she says such things I have a huge lump in my throat as I get quite emotional when I hear her say such things.  Another thing that gets me emotional, is how she speaks of my Nana / Grandfather..(he has since passed away unfortunately)...how she says he was a good man, was a gentleman, never swore at her once.....it made me think, and I can speak for myself I have a bit of a potty mouth at times, but I do not think I have ever sworn at anyone to be spiteful....yet I have seen people these days hide and cover their true feelings as an easy way to protect themselves by using hurtful language...its like once things are said, they cannot be taken back.  Yes you can forgive, but does not mean you cannot forget.  But a true gentleman would never do such a thing, and I think these days that is such a rarity in itself.

Speaking to my Nani made me realise how things where back then and how solid their relationship was. And yes they did indeed have an arranged marriage, looking back at my Nana he was so laid back and a joker, he used to shuffle dance around the house like Bill Cosby in the The Cosby show.... :)  But with his laid back jokey mood and my Nani's sensible-ness it was amusing seeing them together and how my Nana would wind my Nani up, lovingly and seeing that was always lovely, heart warming.  I just hope I find an inch of what my grandparents had and what my parents have and I will be forever thankful and grateful.  She did say one thing to me......She hopes I find someone who I love just as much as I love her.....and that indeed got a lump in my throat.......

Naturally being back home, every single family I saw there spoke of the 'M' word....Marriage!!   All I could say was ''It will happen when it happens''....

Upon my return it was head on into Ramadaan, which I will not lie, I did find hard this year, but managed to soldier on!

It is now full blown wedding season, and yes I have weddings to be part of and attend! Wedding meetings, Mehendis, Nikkah and Wedding reception, takes me right up to September!

However today I got a call from one of my friends aunties (who I had met at a wedding) and she informed me about a lady.....lets call her Aunty Rishta / Aunty Cilla Black...well I was given her number and I called this afternoon and introduced myself....to which I was told...'Oh hello...would you mind calling in about 15 minutes as there is a general knowledge quiz on TV and if I could call back later......(or maybe one of them Indian drama's on Star Plus was on and dint want to be disturbed like my mum gets absorbed into them!).  So I waited and called, she seemed like a nice lady and asked me questions like full name, where I live and age and then asked.....''what is your skin tone colour''....I was like excuse me!!!?? She said are you fair? Dark? I was like errmmm to be honest I don't look into the colour of someone but she said she gets a lot of people who she has previously spoken to, still do tend to ask....so again she asked 'What colour would you say you are?'' I was like erm...well I have tanned quite a bit.....but I'm not dark, the next thing I hear she says in a slow (while writing on a piece of paper) ''Sun Tanned''....I was like er...ohh...What else could I say??

So she said she will get back to me in a few days...which is fine and I sent her some photo's of myself also.....

I shall keep you all posted, and once again sorry its been ages! And I promise to post more often, I feel like I have left gaps here and there, but when things crop up I shall blog this!!!

Ooooh and another thing I am now on Instagram! Follow me on Halaalchickinthecity !!! :)


I shall leave you with this parting gift....which indeed did have me ''On the floor''.....rolling around laughing!!!!!